“This is hard”
You have no idea how often clients sit in the chair across from me and say “this is hard”. My response…”yes it is”.
This was the scenario the other evening when I was working with Mary. (not her real name)
Mary and I are about 7 weeks into the process. Last week she sat down and the first thing she said was “this is hard”. I agreed with her and we talked about why this was harder than what she did before.
Mary had worked with a nutritionist before and lost 25lbs. Within the year she gained back the 25lbs. She came to me wanting to lose the 20-25lbs she re-gained. She had issues with night-time eating and unhealthy snacking at work. She revealed she is unhappy at work and sometimes bored and lonely at night.
Before it was about ‘eat this and not that’. As long as she exerted her will power and ate what she was told the weight came off. The weight came back on because she didn't address any of the reasons why she put on the weight in the first place.
The truth is, the work you need to do is hard. It's hard because it’s about more than me telling you what to eat, how to eat and food records (though all of these things are important for long-term weight loss and lifestyle changes.) You address the crap that either went on in your life growing up, the crap going on in your life right now or both. There are reasons why people go on and off diets ALL the time. I did a survey that told me most people have tried more than 10 different diets in their lifetime to date.
Barbara came to me wanting to lose 100lbs. She doesn't feel well most of the time. She has a bucket list to fulfill and can’t do any of the things on her list carrying around the extra weight. Barbara and I have been working together for about a month. She’s been having a problem with the planning part especially in the evening. She said she couldn't stand on her feet long enough in the evening to cook herself a good dinner so often she ended up grazing throughout the night. Something about what she had been telling me wasn't adding up. She was able to take her dogs for a walk, make it to swimming class and told me she was busy throughout the day. I finally called her on her story of not being able to stand. As I suspected it was just an excuse. She had never been organized to plan dinners, ever. Because she never did it she found it challenging and she was admittedly lazy. If Barbara doesn't practice changing this way of thinking and the behavior that goes along with it she will never live her bucket list.
Does your stinkin thinkin keep you stuck?
Are you clear about the habits and behaviors that keep you forever in a dieters mentality and losing and regaining weight?
Is food and eating a constant struggle?
If you are exhausted from constantly dieting and thinking about food then take the next step.... CLICK HERE and let’s talk!
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In good health,
lisa@healthcoachllc.com
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